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On the one thing you cannot look up: what you are actually like to deal with.
You can find out almost anything about yourself. Your credit score, your resting heart rate, how fast you read. The fact that matters most has no readout at all, which is how you come across to the people who decide things about you.
Every guide below comes back to the same problem. You cannot see your own reputation, and almost every tool that promises to show it to you is asking the wrong person, which is you.
That is not a criticism of self-reflection. It is a structural fact about where the information is. Your reputation is not stored in your head. It exists in other people's heads, assembled from things you did and mostly do not remember doing, and the only way to read it is to ask them.
Asking them is harder than it sounds, which is why these guides exist. The question you would naturally ask gets a polite answer. The person you would naturally ask is the one most invested in not upsetting you. The moment you would naturally pick is the moment they are least able to be honest.
Your reputation is not stored in your head. It exists in other people's heads, and the only way to read it is to ask them.
Where this comes from
We build a product that does exactly this, so treat these as written by an interested party. They are written to be useful whether or not you ever use it. A guide that only works if you buy something is an advertisement wearing a guide's clothes.
Where a guide names a piece of research, it names the author and the year. It says what the study actually found rather than what would be convenient. Where we have no source, we say so. The list of things we refuse to claim applies to these pages as much as to any result.
The part this page cannot do
Reading about how to ask a better question is not the same as asking one, and it is a great deal more comfortable.
The awkward part of this is not knowing what to ask. It is being in the room while somebody answers, which is the specific thing we built a way around.
Start the interviewIt takes about fifteen minutes and it is free. The $29 Portrait is only charged after five people finish and the evidence clears.